Reflections and Angles…

In a few days, I will be moving into that next age group on those surveys and categories!

No longer will I be in the 45-55 age group.

What does this mean for me?


Do I get to add an extra maximum speed limit corresponding to my age?


Many have said that I do not look that old – in fact, some have mistaken me for a much younger man until they look closely at the short gray hairs scattered throughout my scalp (why do you think I keep my hair short).

Just when I feel the urge to go into that next age group kicking and screaming…

I reflect upon the many victories (and defeats) life has placed in my path. Would I have been a different person if certain events did (or did not) happen in my life? Would I have the same friendships and outcomes if things had changed?

Life is full of different scenarios and I do not subscribe to the fact that God has directed all of my events in life. He has given me the freedom to choose and decide while He protects and allows me to experience difficulties to impart important life lessons for His glory.

Does He know my ending? Of course He does!

Can I possibly control my ending? Of course not!

Does God get disappointed with many of my decisions? Most definitely!

The best part is that no matter what happens, God still loves me and will always be there for me. He will never leave me nor forsake me. This is what I find comfort in and this is the peace that carries me through the good (and bad) times in my life.

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” (Deut. 31:6, KJV)

So what do I reflect upon as I move into that next age bracket? Here are just a few things:

  • I overcame a speech impediment to become a confident speaker in front of various audiences.
  • I have been blessed with a strong faith that helped me endure a couple of deaths from my first and second marriages.
  • I have been happily married since 2011!
  • I have been blessed with children and step-children from my marriages.
  • Though I lost my job in the last recession, my God has provided financial means to help us survive.
  • I have published my book to help others with their caregiving experiences.
  • I have been blessed with appearances in various media venues to share my story of loss and recovery.

All in all, I would not trade any piece of my life for another outcome.


Just like you, I am made in God’s perfect image. As they say, why mess with perfection?

“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…” (Psalms 139:14a, KJV)

What do you reflect upon as you age another year? Do you have things you truly wish you could go back and change which would then, create another life for which you do not know the outcome?

We all wish for better things as in the grass is greener on the other side mantra but is it really? I believe that our eyes deceive us when we look at something new and incorrectly believing that it would be better elsewhere when in fact, our eyes just need to re-adjust to where we are standing and see that those differences are, in reality, similarities from another viewpoint.

In other words, we just need to look at our own circumstances from a different angle.


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