Resilience

Is that word in your vocabulary?

Lately, I have been reading many stories of life struggles. Some are my friends and others I have never met. We all have, are, and will experience life-changing events that will shape who we will become for the betterment of those around us.

That’s counterintuitive to say the least. Many ask the question, “How can something good come out of this?” Have you ever asked that question while in the midst of your challenge or struggle?

Sure, we have heard those phrases such as “When you hit rock bottom, there is no where else to go but up”. Resilient people, however, have a different mindset….

Many of you know my story (if not, check out my book to understand the basis of my blog).

When one has been beaten down by circumstances beyond their control, it is too easy to give up. Unfortunately, most will do that and play the victim card (Woe is me!). They proceed through life with the belief that they deserve bad things or are too willing to accept defeat.

Have you ever pursued something only to give up a little bit too soon? For example, if you are exercising to improve your health or increase muscles, do you ever push for that extra rep, one last lap, or one more squat? In your mind, you may feel No way! I am so exhausted already!! How can I possibly do ONE more?

Then something magical happens WHEN you push to do one more thing – you feel exhausted but accomplished! You feel proud of yourself that you pushed yourself beyond your limit that day (without getting injured of course). This sets the tone for the rest of your day that you can accomplish more!

Had you given up (as your body and mind was begging you to do), that sense of exhilaration would never have occurred. Think of those Olympic athletes who trained for years for that 15-seconds of hope to capture an Olympic medal. Aside from the experience of competing on a world stage, I believe many will enjoy their lives with a drive that will exceed their competition because they know “how” to push to the next level.

In many ways, being resilient means to take that extra step beyond one’s circumstances in order to realize the full potential of the experience. No one can predict future outcomes but stepping out in faith that something better will come along or that this will contribute to the greater cause can only be realized IF one pushes beyond their boundaries of fear.

As my youngest enters college, I reflect back upon the past nine years of extreme struggle and pain. I have been told that I am resilient. At first, I shrugged it off as a “well, what choice do I have?” but as the years progressed, I realized that rather than giving up on life and playing the victim card, I chose to push through my circumstances in blind faith, believing that my story is part of a much bigger picture in life.

I was given opportunities to speak in different venues to share my stories of struggle. Many were blessed by purchasing my first book, “Every Day Passes Is One Day Closer“.  Many have encouraged me to write another book to share what happened in the following year. Then it hit me!

Many are looking for resilient stories of hope and courage.

Whatever their struggles, they wanted to read about how I was able to cope with life after.

This was a big responsibility but after taking that first step to move forward in my life, this next step has a bigger impact outside of my little circle. So what is my next journey?

Well, you will just have to stay tuned to my blog to find out….

In the meantime, I hope that you will find resilience in whatever circumstance you are currently experiencing. No one can hold you back except you!

These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33

 

 

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